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Would it be wise to get a new dog so soon after the loss of my last one?
I dog sat for a friend over the New Year period and since she has returned home her owner says she has been uncontrollable. I never had any trouble whilst she was here but she was quite a cuddly dog so needed a lot of belly rubs and attention.

They are now considering sending her to a rehoming centre but although lovely with us and her present family, when with strangers she barks a lot and can seem menacing.

Would it be appropriate to offer her a home after feeling so devastated by the loss of our last dog? I feel we might be her only hope of ever getting in a loving home but not sure whether it would be to much to soon.

Her name is Rubie by the way and she is nearly 3 so not a puppy and all the trouble they involve.
asked in dogs, rehoming, moral dilemma

Russel.West answers:

Firstly I'm sorry to hear about your loss - never easy dealing with the loss of a beloved pet.

If Rubie bonded with you then why not offer to foster her for a while and see if it works out - at worst she will have had some good times with you before moving on to another home or she may just settle in to your home and your hearts...

I hope she does make big paw prints in your heart - I hope you give her the home she obviously deserves.

Good luck Topaz and kindest thoughts


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Theminxy1 answers:

I would be inclined to caution. It would be lovely to offer Ruby a home, but you have to think about the impact she might have on your life. It may also be that someone else would be able to cope better with her dislike of strangers in one way or another.

If you're having doubts, it could just be that you are doing so with good reason. It would be a shame to have to re-home her again later if things don't work out. Be fair to yourself as well as Ruby and give it loads of thought first.

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tracieboo answers:

Normally i would say yes, it's too soon. But i'm a firm beliver in fate and i do belive that things happen for a reason.

You looked after Rubie and realised what a lovely dog she is and now she needs a home, by the sounds of things, other people might not see her good qualities and she could be left at the dogs home for quite some time.

I think you have already made your mind up, you just feel guilty about loving another dog so soon after losing Fudge. I think Fudge would be happy to know you are looking after another dog and giving her all the love and affection you showed him.

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seacommander answers:

Hello Topaz. Quite honestly I think only you can answer this question. If you can honestly say that both your heart and head think it's the right thing to do then do it. If there is any doubt it's probably best to steer clear. Also what do the rest of the family think?

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robinsamuels answers:

It sounds like fate to me.

Why should it be too soon after losing Fudge? If she makes you and the family happy, and you can offer her a good home, then it sounds right to me.

When we adopted Max, it really was the worst possible time for us. The house had just been re-wired, the plumbing was half out and we've still (5 months later) got a dis-assembled kitchen taking up the lounge. He slobbers all over the walls and we've had to totally change our plans for the downstairs of the house because of that and his constant moulting. BUT he needed a home, we thought he was lovely and I've never had a more soppy or loving dog (or stupid!). While it may not have been the right time for us, it was the right time for him and we've never wanted to go back on our decision.

I know that the circumstances are different for you, but the timing for Rubie sounds about the same. My only concern would be what to do if she is still aggressive with strangers. Can you cope with that? If not, you may need to give her up, but even then at least you will have tried to avoid her being sent to a home.

Go for it.

Good luck.

Supplement from 01/11/2009 06:58pm:

Further to your comment regarding your kids wanting a Saint.

If you think that makes him look big, take a look at this one! Not to mention, in the films, the slobber is always clear looking, in real life it's a disgusting brownish muck with dog hair and food mixed in!

OK, the wife is only 4 foot 11, but it gives you an idea how big he is. To put him in context, nose to tail, he's well over 2 metres!

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Messerwisser answers:

If you and Rubie and her owners agree that's the solution for all involved.

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