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Is it better to be a single child or to have siblings?
Do you think there is an ideal number of siblings? And gender mix? Age gap?
asked in life, and everything after

Topaz2308 answers:

My sister has a saying an only child is a selfish and lonely child and she says working in the care industry for many years she can spot an only child a mile off. She says an only child tends to visit their parent/s less, they are usually concerned with what is in it for them and rarely visit for anything else apart from duty.

For me on a personal level, 2 was enough and it was pure chance I had the pigeon pair I was blessed with so have the best of both worlds. I preferred to have them reasonably close together at three years apart so they have each other to depend on whilst growing up. I think now looking at my childrens perspective they probably would prefer to be an only child as they tend to rub each other up the wrong way. However I'm hoping this changes and they realise what they have to offer each other.

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Messerwisser answers:

Most psychiatrists agree it is better to have "a reasonable number" of siblings.
What reasonable means is a matter of economical and social conditions.

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xoloriib answers:

I think the age gap should be as short as possible. That way all grow up together. When there is a large age difference it tends to give responsibility to the older children too soon because they act as substitute parents when the actual parents are not around.

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jacquesdor answers:

From my point of view I say it is better to be an only child - however, I donĀ“t know if my sister ( seven years my junior) would agree!!

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high1971 answers:

i would say it is no better or no worse as far as the child is concerned what they lose from siblings they make up for in being sole recipiants of parents love and effection
i do not see it making much of a serious effect on the childs life as an adult as alot of sole children are very driven in life and can reach goals they set themselves
where as a child with siblings may get their goals but may also have family ties as in siblings wanting attention or advice

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rainchild answers:

I have read that only children have an advantage because they are always in the company of adults. I've heard that they usually achieve more. However, achievement is not everything. If you have siblings, it's best to be the oldest or the youngest so you get more individual parental attention. It's best not to be a middle child. Therefore, 1-2 must be the perfect number of children to have. Then there are no middle children.

(I'm just being silly above; my real thoughts are echoes of Rasputin's comment to Topaz.)

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geejayy answers:

being an only child, i'm trying to be objective here, but sadly have to agree with topaz.

the lack of siblings possibly leaves such childern a bit socially stunted & introverted, however an out going personallity & a group of good friends hopefully should redress the balence imho.

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